It’s been interesting to see how my Myers-Briggs Personality Type has changed over the years, from a rule-following ESTJ during my corporate career, to my current type of INFP, which means I am a:

• slightly expressed introvert
• moderately expressed intuitive personality
• slightly expressed feeling personality
• slightly expressed perceiving personality

INFP = Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving

Further Explanation

The Portrait of the Healer Idealist - Extract: Healer Idealists are abstract in thought and speech, cooperative in striving for their ends, and investigative and attentive in their interpersonal relations. Healer present a seemingly tranquil, and noticiably pleasant face to the world, and though to all appearances they might seem reserved, and even shy, on the inside they are anything but reserved, having a capacity for caring not always found in other types. They care deeply-indeed, passionately-about a few special persons or a favorite cause, and their fervent aim is to bring peace and integrity to their loved ones and the world.

Healers have a profound sense of idealism derived from a strong personal morality, and they conceive of the world as an ethical, honorable place. Indeed, to understand Healers, we must understand their idealism as almost boundless and selfless, inspiring them to make extraordinary sacrifices for someone or something they believe in. The Healer is the Prince or Princess of fairytale, the King’s Champion or Defender of the Faith, like Sir Galahad or Joan of Arc. Healers are found in only 1 percent of the general population, although, at times, their idealism leaves them feeling even more isolated from the rest of humanity.

INFP Profile - Extract: INFPs never seem to lose their sense of wonder. One might say they see life through rose-colored glasses. It’s as though they live at the edge of a looking-glass world where mundane objects come to life, where flora and fauna take on near-human qualities.

What personality type are you?

One of the lessons I learnt recently is powerful in it’s simplicity. An earlier discovery of this principle would have prevented much early strife in my relationships, and I’d encourage you to think carefully about the relevance of this for you:

“The most important need a man has in a relationship is to feel appreciated, admired and respected. Without her appreciation his life is but an empty shell. The most important need a woman has in a relationship is to feel loved and cherished. Without his love her life is but an empty shell. Without appreciation, there is no love; without love there is no appreciation.”

The problem in most relationships is that neither partner is willing to start the ball rolling. As simple as the little statement above is, the relevance and importance of it is smothered by the barrage of commercialised quick-fix relationship advice we are all exposed to. Consider the titles of articles in your average men or women’s magazines which proliferate newsstands today. With few exceptions, all of them violate or ignore the unchanging laws of human relationships. Is it any wonder then that divorce rates are so high today?